I collapsed. I could not sleep well and was panicking about my lack of sleep, had repetitive thoughts and was nervous. Yesterday and today and I was not feeling like myself, and I considered going to a mental health institution to receive guidance. However, I imagined they would give me pills and I went off pills three months ago. I was sort of derealized this morning, could barely make out words and talk to my sister. Everything felt off. I tried to get through my bouldering class. My body felt heavy. I could barely pull myself up. I managed to get through the class, often thinking about going to the doctor.
It was in the car on the way back that I started dozing off and I felt my nervous system shutting down. When I came home, I collapsed. My stomach was hurting and all I could do was lie down. So I did, and then I felt like I’d have to stay there all night. I decided to do so. Told my friend that I could not make it today. I decided not to be OK, something several therapists have suggested I do. In reality, I did not have another choice. My body’s and mind’s demands became very clear all of a sudden.
Honestly, the whole thing was a relief and I realized I had been in survival mode since yesterday; not really myself.
The thing is, I want to be OK so badly, that I deny and reject the difficult feelings and emotions. I fear them, loathe them, refuse them, and all of this takes a lot of energy, and basically putting up this wall between me and reality. Hence the importance of allowing myself to feel “negative” emotions or sensations or to go through difficult moments with patience and lots and lots of compassion.
I have still so much to learn from myself and I still have so much healing to do, but I was in this illusion that I was OK. But just days ago I was reading that healing was a bumpy road. You think you are doing well, then you face the darkness again, and pull yourself out again. I forget this and I forget to have compassion.
The lesson today was to observe everything going inside and out and see my body, my nervous system and my mind naturally just go through all this. I got to evidence what I can do if I do not choose fear, but acceptance.
I wanted to do too much. Go on dates, go dancing, go to concerts, find a job, I started a master’s… just too much and this forced me to slow down and breathe. I am glad.