It has been such a long, long time since I last wrote something in here. That is actually a good thing. I used to have to write the pain a lot more often. I was not going out as much. I was so, so, so f—ing terrified. So terrified. All the time.
Constant panic, sometimes more loud than others. It has been a while since I had a bad crisis. I still have loads of intrusive thoughts at times, but now they are just part of my life I guess, until maybe they are not. I am healthy. I made it a year without a job, which is not ideal and actually is a source of stress but, at the same time, I was terrified before of how I was going to survive life without the constant distraction of work.
In January I thought I was doing so well, I went off the pills. But I was not ready, and being unemployed and unable to sleep… it happened again. It was the last time I spiraled. I had insomnia for days again until the point of depersonalization. I had to take Klonopin again and I had lost the number of my psychiatrist and was terrified… again.
Just about a week or two after, I had this big trip planned to the Pacific and I could not fathom traveling alone in that state. And yet, I did. I did and it was the first time I did free diving. I did, and I met my best friend. I did, following my therapist’s advice and my psychiatrist’s advice and I taught myself that it is OK to do things while I am terrified (well, I am still always a tiny, tiny bit terrified).
I had failed somehow to heal, but I had learned to be more compassionate, so this time, I said, OK, I’ll take it as slowly as I need to. Four months ago, in August-September, I went on a second trip to the Pacific and I somehow started taking less medication. I never got back to 75 mg, knowing that now I am mentally and emotionally a bit stronger. I was on 50 mg and ended up cutting it down to 25 mg. There I am now, three months and a half later, and I am sleeping. Not perfectly, and not without struggle, but I sleep. And I do have intrusive thoughts and anxiety, but they do not keep me from living. It has been a long process. Two years and a half… but it is getting better. It definitely is.
Life is not “great” right now. Unemployed for a year yesterday, unable to do many of the things I want and feel I need to do because I do not have financial stability yet. And yet, I am a bit better. A bit, after all that time, and through a lot of effort, but it has been worth it. I surely have learned so many things in the process. Also have been bouldering for a year and a half, and it has become such an important part of my life.
Most people who meet me miss such a big part of the context… that my last two years have been about healing and everything, everything has been a part of that. There has been a lot of trying from my side. A lot of trying to be OK. A lot of doing whatever I need to do to be OK. And I’m proud, so proud of myself for getting myself here, where I am just a little bit better.